Narcissist La La Land

Destination Misery – A "Let Me Reach" Short Story

The brochure shows a beautiful, lush vacation resort.  Stunning, blue waters caress white-sand beaches.  The five-star hotel looks comfortable and accommodating with smiling staff ready to cater to your every whim.  You buy the ticket, pack your bags and catch a taxi to the airport.

The stewardesses greet you with warm smiles, take your bags and escort you to your seat.  At once, you are asked your choice of cocktail and offered a scrumptious snack.  Shortly after, the plane takes off and you close your eyes, imagining what life will be like when you arrive at your scenic destination.

Shortly before touching down, there is terrible turbulence.  You realize the cabin crew is nowhere to be seen.  You look through the window…the place at which you’ve arrived is nothing like what you believed.  The plane comes to a screeching halt and you walk feebly toward the exit.  You get to the door and stop, not wanting to exit the plane.  You want to go back home, but you purchased a one-way ticket.

Feeling lonely and isolated, you begin to scorn yourself.  You’ve been here many times, and each time you are fooled by false advertising; the old bait-and-switch.  You force yourself to exit the plane and go blindly into the desolate wilderness, wondering how you’ll get back home this time…

Copyright 2014-2017 Kim Saeed and Let Me Reach

 

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Comments

  1. Tammy

    Before I said yes to my husband, I informed him I had herpes simplex 2, he pondered on it for 2weeks and then he said he still wanted to get married. After a few months into the marriage he became very aggressive and angry towards me…when I confronted him about his anger , he said he thought it was out of him. So I walkedon eggshells for months until one day he threatened to harm me. When I discussed leaving him he said this marriage is for better or for worse…he said accepted herpes. So how are you going to bail out . I said you threatened my life…you said your temper was your past… therefore he feels I should accept his behavior since he accepted herpes? How do I handle this response???

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  3. so very true. Thank you for this reminder, as I was struggling today to step in and “try again” or hold my own ground.

    1. Kim Saeed

      Thank you for sharing, Kimberly! You can do this! <3

      1. Tammy

        It has been a month for me not having contact…the thought of contact gives me anxiety! Thank you so much Kim for no contact questionnaire!

  4. I’ve seen a few posts lately regarding this topic. I shy away from them because I am afraid I am married to a narcissist. I had never given it any thought until someone recently called him that. I can’t seem to believe it’s true, probably because my husband tells me everything is my fault. I could really relate to your post, although I more often feel like I’ve been transported to Mars because nothing makes sense to me! Beautiful and powerful imagery.

    1. Kim Saeed

      Chey, thank you for stopping by and for sharing. Whether or not your husband is a Narcissist doesn’t really matter, but how he makes you feel does. Just listen to your heart. You will eventually find your way back home 🙂

  5. Reblogged this on An Upturned Soul and commented:
    A stunning post about Narcissists and their ways, but also a philosophical insight into our own ways.

    Our hopes are often beautiful dreams which inspire us and get us through tough times… and sometimes they get us into those tough times.

    Awareness is a part of our personal power, awareness of others and of ourselves, so we can enjoy our dreams, take a holiday to the destination they offer us, without losing ourselves and finding that the beautiful dream is actually an advert for a nightmare.

    Thank you for sharing, Kim, your blog is a wonderful oasis!

  6. betternotbroken

    Been there. A five star resort on my honeymoon that I paid for – in more ways than one. Another person told me once that hope is your enemy when it comes to living with a narcissist. Thanks again for your help on the healing journey out of hell.

    1. Kim Saeed

      BNB,

      Thank you for sharing that. It’s true, hope CAN be our worst enemy, but only if we stay. Alternately, hope can also be our savior, such as when our hope leads us to leave our abuser in search of healing and happiness. You can have all of that, just keep putting one foot in front of the other <3

      Kim

  7. Steve Lakey

    This is a striking analogy, Kim. I think we generally know the destination when we buy the ticket. But we often fool ourselves that we’re heading somewhere much nicer. Sometimes it’s better to cut your losses and try for a refund.

  8. It didnt occur to me that i was with a narcissist. With him 14 years, and 7 of them (beginning) were pretty decent. Of course, i gave him everything he needed, and why would he be ugly towards me? the moment he stopped getting the same treatment, my HELL began.
    While i have been a kinky person all my life, i didnt equate with cuckquean until 5 years ago. And i think that i became that way, as a coping mechanism. If only i had been wise enough before all this HELL began.
    Thank you for the analogy. Very accurate!

  9. Kim this is outstanding! What a fantastic way of describing the feelings we go through after being duped by a narcissist! Everyone should see this. I’ll share it later down the line. 🙂 Well done!!

  10. It took several times of agreeing to “try again”, before I realized that it was to be more of the same-only each time, I was the only one working harder to make things better-work harder, cook better, clean better, give him attention at every snap of the fingers…goodness…

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