Narcissistic Abuse, Recovery, and the Importance of Right Healing

Experts say it takes more time to recover from a breakup with a narcissist (be that a friendship, colleague, family member, partner, or spouse) because you have to grieve twice. You grieve first for the person the narcissist pretended to be (your most loyal friend, soulmate, perfect boss) and then you grieve yet again about the horror of who they actually are: your worst nightmare.

Exactly like a drug addiction you are high from the intensity during the initial stages of the relationship. You spend the rest of the entire relationship wanting to get back to that initial high that never comes. Being in a relationship with a narcissist is akin to being addicted to heroin. It will slowly kill you. The longer you stay with a narcissist and endure intermittent cycles of abuse, followed by “loving” treatment, you become MORE attached through a process known as trauma bonding.


I am honored that Kristin Sunanta Walker, CEO of everythingEHR invited me to be a guest on Mental Health News Radio, along with her co-host,  Melanie Vann.  Join us as we go in depth about what these relationships are like, why it is imperative to cut off all contact for good, and how important your healing process is so you can recover.

Life truly does begin after No Contact.



Please read the full blog article here.

Some of the topics of discussion are:

What if he/she isn’t a narcissist and I’m giving up too soon?

What if I’m the narcissist?

Is there a possibility the Narcissist can change?

I’ve been in therapy for years, but I still don’t seem to be healing.

Is this my fault?

It feels like no one is interested in me. Maybe the narcissist was right about me.

How important is it to learn how to modulate/regulate emotions in the first step in healing?

How is the term ‘grey rock’ helpful and why it should only be used in cases of shared custody/shared employer.

Kristin Sunanta Walker is the CEO of a behavioral health consulting practice everythingEHR and host of Mental Health News Radio. She advocates on behalf of behavioral and women’s healthcare providers and the organizations and vendors who provide services to these populations. She shares what she learns through conference presentations, blog articles and as part of her consulting work.

*Examples given regarding Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Psychopathy, or Sociopathology may be related to the guest or host’s experiences over vast interactions in their field. An amalgamation of experiences may be described but may not represent any specific entity. 

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  1. Rosemary

    Could you provide me the name of a licensed professional as stated above.. for Narcessistic abuse and trauma.. I live in Phoenix Arizona. Thank you

    1. Kim Saeed

      Hi Rosemary! I don’t have any acquaintances in Arizona, but you might want to reach out to my friends at everythingEHR. They might be able to recommend someone. Here is their site:

  2. Patricia Mcmanus

    What a great program. Thank you for hosting Kristin, and Kim for once again sharing your tremendous knowledge. I especially appreciate the discussion about the importance of self-care to heal, as well as finding the right therapist. I was very fortunate that the marriage counselor that worked with me and my ex, was able to see first hand what was going on. While it did take a while for the therapist to see all the signs (the narc is VERY good at acting like he “doesn’t know what we are talking about”), eventually the therapist recognized the NPD and is helping me heal from the trauma. We are doing all the types of therapies you recommend, and he is a practitioner of guided meditation which is becoming my path to healing. Thank YOU Kim for being my guiding light over the last 2 years.

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    1. Kim Saeed

      Thank YOU for all you, as well. I truly enjoyed being on your show, Kristin. It was an honor and I hope we will work together again in the near future.

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