Self-care and Healing from Workplace Bullying
Dawn Marie Westmoreland
We all know that burnt out feeling when we are tired or overwhelmed in our lives. It may come on slowly, but it can really affect us personally and professionally when we are not taking good care of ourselves. Now, bring in the fact that you are being mistreated or bullied at work—if you are not taking good care of yourself, you are likely going to experience a mental or physical decline. Let’s face it—if you are being bullied it can have a serious effect on your well-being. You may feel depressed, discouraged, anxious, lethargic or fearful because you are being treated badly at work. Self-care is about taking care of yourself and your needs.
Whether you decide to stand up to your workplace bullying situation or make a decision to leave your job to save your “health”, this is a time to be kind to yourself. Below, I share five “holistic” modalities that can support your self-care and help you feel your best:
Flower Essence Therapy
Flower Essence Therapy is the practice of using flower essences to treat the underlying emotional, mental, or spiritual problems which often manifest themselves as physical ailments or illnesses. According to FES Flowers, the “energy” of the plant or flower is used to help people and pets in a subtle, but powerful manner. Furthermore, flower essences are liquid extracts used to address profound issues of emotional well-being, soul development, and mind-body health. Even scientists recognize that everything is made of “energy”.
According to FES Flowers Company, flower essences are diluted, potentized herbal infusions or decoctions, prepared from wildflowers or pristine garden blossoms. They are made directly in the “laboratory of nature,” where the four alchemical elements of earth, water, air and fire are found in harmonious balance. To this is added the fifth “quintessential” element of the sensitive awareness and attunement of the preparer.
The fresh, dew-filled blossoms are gathered in the early morning of a clear, sunny day. Floating on the surface of a bowl of water, they are irradiated by the warmth and light of the sun for several hours. This process creates an energetic imprint of the etheric energy pattern of the flower in the water, embodying the healing archetype of that plant. This “mother essence” is preserved with brandy and then further diluted and potentized to form the “stock” which is sold in stores and to practitioners.
What is energy work? Since we are made of “energy”, sometimes you may collect energy that does not serve you well, especially if you have a very sensitive nature. From an energy worker’s perspective, it is generally recognized that there is an electromagnetic energy flowing around and through your body in very specific currents. The Chinese recognize this a meridians. Sometimes these currencies can get blocked and create an imbalance in your body. It is believed that this can create illness in the body.
People who provide energy work recognize that the heart, mind and body are connected and a physical problem in the body may lead to an emotional problem and vice versa. It is believed that the body can cure itself and energy healing may be a powerful modality to help you feel better in mind, body, and spirit.
According to the Mayo Clinic, studies of the benefits of massage demonstrate that it is an effective treatment for reducing stress, pain and muscle tension, anxiety, and digestion disorders. If you are dealing with workplace bullying—you are probably feeling tense and the stress you are going through can manifest many types of health ailments. Many massage therapists know how to get to the root of the problem when it comes to “tight” muscles or you need some stress relief through massage. According to MassageTherapy.com, massage can assist in easing medication dependence, lessen depression and anxiety, release endorphins—amino acids that work as the body’s natural painkiller–and relieve migraine pain.
Massage can be a powerful ally in your healthcare regimen. Some health experts believe that upwards of ninety percent of diseases are stress-related. So, why not consider massage so you can decrease your anxiety, enhance your sleep quality, have greater energy, improve your concentration, and reduce your fatigue?
Hypnosis or Hypnotherapy
Hypnosis is like a guided meditation according to WebMD. It has many prevailing benefits that help you gain clarity, confidence, a sense of safety, overcome phobias, fears, anxiety, depression, stress, PTSD, and grief.
How does hypnosis work? A hypnotist or hypnotherapist will help the client get into a restful state of relaxation known as a “trance”. At this point, suggestions that the client have asked for are administered. These could be suggestions to your subconscious that you are feeling better, you are able to handle the stress in your life or you are able to stand up to your bully. There are so many powerful suggestions to help you in your time of need.
Hypnosis can be an aid to psychotherapy or other counseling. It enables the client to work on issues to improve their self-worth and self-confidence. It’s also one of the most effective stress-reliever modalities available. Many people report they felt like they woke up from a great nap when they come out of a hypnotic trance.
A binaural beat is an auditory artifice perceived when two different pure-tone sine waves, with frequencies lower than 1500 Hz and less than a 40 Hz difference between them is presented to the listener dichotically—one sound in each ear. You may be listening to a 530 Hz pure tone in one ear and a 520 Hz pure tone in the other ear. By listening to these two sounds, it produces an auditory illusion of a third tone, which is called a binaural beat. You must be wearing head phones to experience this effect.
Some benefits of theta binaural beats include: assists in entering a deeper meditative state, lucid dreaming, increased levels of creativity, body healing, and increased learning ability/motor skills. Listening to binaural beats for 30 – 60 mins each day can provide positive results in four to six weeks. One of the greatest resources for binaural beats is BrainSync. Kelly Howell is a pioneer in the binaural beats arena.
There are many other modalities that can support you while you are dealing with workplace bullying. Explore and decide how to take care of yourself in a modality that resonates with you. You deserve to be happy.
Dawn Marie Westmoreland was formerly a “victim” of severe bullying for being a Veteran Affairs “Whistleblower”. It took landing in the mental health ward to realize that some “gifts” come in ugly wrapping paper. Today, Dawn is a workplace anti-bullying speaker, author, coach, and HR consultant. She has been featured on over 50 radio interviews and lauded by the Christian Science Monitor for the work she is doing to empower others. Dawn was sent to educate Senators on the need to protect conscientious “whistleblowers” like herself, by the Concerned Veterans for America. You can learn more about Dawn at www.DawnMarieWestmoreland.com
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