acts of self care

Taking Care of You: 6 Acts of Self-Care That Soothe

Most of us can’t deny that life gets way too busy. So busy, sometimes, that you may feel like you don’t have time to take care of yourself. However, when it comes to healing from toxic relationships, it’s necessary to move acts of self care to the top of your list.

The rituals you practice to take care of your mind, body and soul can be soothing and contribute to the contentment and joy you feel in everything you do.

Review these self-care rituals to remind yourself how important you are. Then, revive some of your own practices or add new ones that soothe you.

  1. Practice soothing, healthful skin care. Regardless of whether you’re a man or a woman, your skin needs all the help it can get. After all, skin protects you 24/7.
  • Use organic personal care items that are free of harsh, industrial chemicals.  Your body is already suffering from the effects of long-term emotional abuse and stress.  Mainstream body care items only make your symptoms worse.
  • Apply sunscreen to any skin that’s exposed to the sun before you leave the house.
  1. Exercise relieves your stress and rejuvenates both your mind and body.
  • Even if you just exercise 15 minutes twice a day (morning and evening), getting the physical activity your body craves will revive your mood and enrich your life profoundly.
  • Try a 10-minute walk to give your mind a rest or lift your spirits. Whether you choose a brisk pace or a slow saunter to admire the landscape, consider it a gift to yourself to go for a brief stroll.
  1. Re-acquaint yourself with the magic and exhilaration that nature provides. Nothing relaxes and nurtures us like getting outdoors.
  • Find time to sit on your porch to watch the birds.
  • Take a few minutes to care for a flower garden, or go for a walk in the park.
  1. Punctuate your day with a mini-meditation.
  • Practice mindful breathing.  As you exhale, think about releasing what is no longer serving you. Take the opportunity to exhale out any stress and anxiety you may feel.
  • Light scented candles, put on relaxing music, and take the time to fully enjoy them.
  1. Take time to do the one thing you really love to do. There’s something so delicious and special about having the time and space to do whatever it is that you get excited about.
  • Maybe you’ve got an insatiable love of reading, but struggle to find the time to read with working and family tasks tugging at you. Or perhaps you like to sew or work with wood. No matter what your beloved activity, figure out a way to make it happen. 
  • Even if it’s every other day or once a week, an important part of self-care is doing what makes your heart sing.
  1. Stay in touch with your feelings. You may think this sounds somewhat cliché. But the truth is that if you’re honest with yourself about how you feel, you’ll have more peace and contentment inside.
  • Living your life based on your real feelings will bring comfort and joy to your soul. It can be a challenge to be truthful with yourself and others about how you feel. But if you do, the rewards are great.

Engaging in activities and rituals that soothe you deep inside enriches your day-to-day existence and, over time, helps you heal from narcissistic abuse. A regular practice of self-care also demonstrates that you truly recognize your own worth.

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  1. Margo

    This article is so true. I have been trying to do all of these things–including the skin care. I started using Mary Kay. I think just the fact that you are investing in yourself also makes the difference. Exercise, sleep, eating right, resting a bit in the day–it REALLY makes a difference. Thank you for all you do.

    1. Kim Saeed

      That’s wonderful news, Margo! Very glad to know you are incorporating self-care into your routine. Wishing you all the best!

      Kim XoXo

  2. Nina Jett

    I have fully enjoyed your articles and suggestions on taking care of me. I’m put a lot of your suggestions into practice and I believe I’m healing from my unwanted relationship. Thanks so much for everything you have given. Continue to share your wisdom and suggestions it’s much appreciated

    1. Kim Saeed

      Very glad to know my articles are helping you, Nina. Wishing you all the best in your healing journey!

      Kim XoXo

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